In therapy sessions with my clients, I often will ask "what are you noticing?". Their answer may describe a thought, a memory surfacing, an emotion, or a body sensation. If we are not in the practice of consciously checking in with what is happening internally, many emotions and sensations often go unfelt or unprocessed.
When I get distracted, I am now doing my best to tune in to my body and see what is going on inside.
Hence, I am using triggers (eg checking the phone, assuming a strange position on the chair) as a way to remind me to connect with the internal disturbance and see if there's a message.
It was a good lesson from a Somatic Coaching course I am attending.
I was extremely triggered by a session that seemed to be "too light" for my tastes (too much chit chat).
At the beginning, my reaction was to start doing other things. To then vent my frustration during peer practice.
While I was invited to tune it, I have then figured out that I did need a lighter moment.
And I was pushing this opportunity away since I got conditioned to do so (like in your “boys don’t cry” example).
When I get distracted, I am now doing my best to tune in to my body and see what is going on inside.
Hence, I am using triggers (eg checking the phone, assuming a strange position on the chair) as a way to remind me to connect with the internal disturbance and see if there's a message.
It was a good lesson from a Somatic Coaching course I am attending.
I was extremely triggered by a session that seemed to be "too light" for my tastes (too much chit chat).
At the beginning, my reaction was to start doing other things. To then vent my frustration during peer practice.
While I was invited to tune it, I have then figured out that I did need a lighter moment.
And I was pushing this opportunity away since I got conditioned to do so (like in your “boys don’t cry” example).
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thanks for sharing your toughts, Livio!